Girls Only: Ask Dr. M: Friends

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Dr. M is the author of five advice books, including Getting to Know the Real You: 50 Fun Quizzes Just for Girls, and Girls: What's So Bad About Being Good? How to Have Fun, Survive the Preteen Years, and Remain True to Yourself, both written with her teenage daughter. Dr. M shares this advice column with Molly, a middle school student who loves to play soccer, dance, write and spend time with her friends.

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Dear Dr. M and Liz,
I have two best friends. One of them is in my class. One is in another class. They know each other. They were friends…once. They hate each other! I want to be friends with both of them. Can you help?

—Kellie, 8, Massachusetts


	Dear Kellie, You definitely don't have to choose between two friends when you like both of them. But if they hate each other, it's probably best for you to spend time with each one separately. You might also want to do a little investigating to find out why their friendship changed. If there was some kind of small misunderstanding, maybe you can help bring them closer together again. But if you can't repair the friendship, don't worry about it—these two girls really need to decide what they want.


	Dear Kellie, Talk to each of your friends privately to find out why they no longer get along. Since they were friends once, the problem is probably not a personality clash. Instead, they may have had a disagreement, which you might be able to mediate—helping them to work out their differences.

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