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Dr. M is the author of five advice books, including Getting to Know the Real You: 50 Fun Quizzes Just for Girls, and Girls: What's So Bad About Being Good? How to Have Fun, Survive the Preteen Years, and Remain True to Yourself, both written with her teenage daughter. Dr. M shares this advice column with Molly, a middle school student who loves to play soccer, dance, write and spend time with her friends.

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Dear Dr. M and Liz,
How do you know if your best friend really likes you or not, and how do you know if she's talking about you? Would I ask her? Or just ask my other friends about it? I'm worried that if I ask her, she'll get mad and say that I don't trust her and break up our friendship. I don't know what to do and I'm sooo stressed out about this situation. Will this problem last forever?

—Tabitha, 12, Missouri

Dear Tabitha,
Friendships often have their ups and downs. Usually, you can tell whether your friend likes you by the way she treats you. You seem to be having some doubts about her loyalty to you, perhaps because you've noticed something different in the way she's been behaving lately.

It's probably not a good idea to ask your other friends because that would tell your best friend that you don't trust her. A better idea would be to talk with your best friend about what you're feeling. Be sure to let her know that you care a lot about your friendship and just want to make sure that everything is okay between the two of you.


	Dear Tabitha, If you're worried about how your best friend will react if you talk to her directly, then you might want to talk to another friend first to find out if she's noticed anything. Maybe another person who knows both of you could look at the situation and give you some helpful advice. You might also talk to your best friend, but approach her in a gentle way, and she probably won't get angry.

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