Dear Jennifer,
Even though divorce occurs between wives and husbands, children often get caught in the middle. And since your mom has gotten divorced at least twice, you've had to get used to new living situations two or more times. That's not easy to do. Your feelings count, so you should be able to share them. If your mom is available for a conversation about the effect of the divorces on you, that's great. Let her know how you feel. But if your mom is too busy or too angry or too hurt to really listen right now, think about other people you can turn to—a grandparent, a caring aunt, a kind teacher, a school social worker or psychologist, or a trusted adult who works with a youth group you belong to. If you are friends with other children of divorced parents, they, too, might understand what you're going through.