Dear Addie,
You need to have a long conversation with your mom, not just about the guy your mom's going to marry, but also about your dad and why she won't let you see him. Tell her you need to understand her reasons for remarrying—insurance is probably not the only explanation—and for keeping you away from your father. You may be having a hard time dealing with the idea of a boyfriend becoming your stepdad because it represents a more permanent situation. You may feel that your relationship with your mom will change. Also, if your mother wasn't around when her boyfriend hit you, tell her about those incidents.